Movies Are Just Entertainment!!!

So I had a debate today about Monique winning her Oscar. They were saying black folks ONLY get Oscars for negative roles and the "recipient" or "viewers" should not be happy or overjoyed by the win. That kind of hit a nerve. First of all there have been plenty of wins and nominations for non negative characters such as Jennifer Hudson (Dreamgirls), Jamie Foxx (Ray) and Denzel Washngton(Glory)just to name a few. But they forget about those and only dwell on the negative. Yes Denzel has also won for "Training Day" instead of (Malcolm X) or (Hurricane) but who cares which movie it was for he still has two! That's power! Do you know how many doors that has opened up for other African Americans to be in the runnings to win? There has been more Oscar noms and wins in the past decade then the whole 82 years of the award show. That's growth and a obvious switch in generations. I am not saying take what we can get but a few years ago Monique was on a reality show "Charm School". She has redefined some things and quick, because reality shows are the bottom of the totem pole in Hollywood.

Because of trailblazers like Oprah, Tyler Perry and Lee Daniels the opportunities don't look as slim, we can go around the obstacles and create our own production companies and or get films green-lit easier because we have been accepted into the exclusive club of Hollywood. We have stories to tell rather it be negative or positive!

I bet if Hannibal was played by a black man versus Anthony Hopkins, who won an Oscar for it, black folks would be complaining about that too! I think it is so sad that we diminish such a big achievement by negativity.

Movies are purely entertainment... with a message sometimes if we are lucky. We have a black President and First Lady. That's reality. So worrying how the world views us based on a movie is pure kaka. The majority of foreigners will probably not see this film anyways. I would be more worried about who our children look up to, like rappers who can barely speak english or the reality shows they watch on a daily basis where girls are beating each other up and/or promiscuous with 15 people all for the love of whoever. That's more harmful then anything to a young girls self esteem.

We have overcome so much as African Americans and I am so proud of us. For the people that always got something to complain about, do us a favor and get in the film industry and bring us better stories! Don't just talk about it. Be the change you want to see...

C'mon Son 7

My Life Is A Beach

So I have been meaning to write about my transition to my new home blocks from the beach. A cute little developing community called Playa Vista. It is so clean and perfect. It kinda reminds me of the neighborhood in "The Truman Show" movie with Jim Carrey. There's no smog so the air is fresh and crisp. Everyone is friendly and active and owns a bike. My place is so cozy with every amenity imaginable. It's my dream location... well maybe if I was actually on the strand I'd be a little happier, but I'm in heaven right now. It's definitely my favorite place out of all the places I have lived thus far. God is great. I'm 5-10 minutes away from everything. I schedule my auditions and meetings during non-traffic times. Just living a stress-free life. My friends love to come visit me to get away from the hustle and bustle of the inner city.

So it's been a month since I got back from my 2 and a half month travels,(Chicago, New York, Ohio) and I would have wrote about this sooner but I got super busy moving/settling in, reconnecting with everyone, writing a scipt and a book, and last but not least, working out. Yes I have been working out like crazy because I always get chubby when I go home. I think it's because none of my family there workout at all. Needless to say, most of them are out of shape :( So all I did while in Chicago was eat, talk, write and sit around. It drove me crazy but I got a lot of writing done. I almost bought a bike while there just to feel active because hey... I'm well into my 30's and I have to preserve "the sexy". lol I did occasional sprints with my nephew but I'm not a runner really, but it did make me feel better. I like exercises that don't feel like exercise like hiking, sex lol, swimming, tennis, roller blading, volleyball, yoga or cycling. The funny thing is I didn't turn into this "healthy" person until I moved to LA. The truth of the matter is I don't think I really worked out until I became a Californian. I adapted the lifestyle pretty quickly and I am so glad I did because it truly is the fountain of youth.

So as soon as I moved in, I bought a cute cruiser bike and have been riding every other day. Those extra chubby pounds were gone in a week. I need to get a cute basket for the front like everyone has. I'm always in bike shops looking for new things to put on it. A few days ago I joined this bike group in my neighborhood and we have a 30 mile ride this Saturday.... Yes you read right. Thirty mile ride on Saturday when the most I have done in a day is 10 unconsciously. I say "unconsciously" because usually I am just going at my own pace. Just strolling along, enjoying the beach sights. But the memo says the ride will be at "moderate" speed. What in the Lance Armstrong hell are these people trying to do to me??? Can I keep up??? We will see. lol I'm up for the challenge!!! I will write about it and post pics. Stay tuned!

Playboy Mansion Party For The Espy's

So I get an invitation to a party hosted at the Playboy Mansion for an Espy charity event and I decide to go. I'm really glad I did go because it was a great party with new faces. I had sworn off the party scene but charity events bring out a different crowd. I've been to every hot annual award show/hot party in every city, I've even traveled abroad for a hot party so I'm not impressed by it all. Been there, done that. So it's safe to say I am over it. I'm not knocking the next person for it, but it's just not my thing anymore. Friends have been wondering where I've been. I'm chilling hard at the crib! lol I only make appearances at charity events, movie premieres, concerts, comedy showcases, personal dinner/house parties, daytime stuff etc etc. I have no purpose to be in the club. I'm not single, so I'm not looking for a man. That's not a good place to meet one anyway. I only want to network. The people I want to connect with aren't in the clubs. Now when I get to Chicago, I might have to go to a Steppers Set because I LOVE to step. Other than that, everything else is played out to me. So to all those club promoters, please stop sending me invites to weekly parties. I'm NOT coming.

Here's a few pics from that night with me and the crew. It was an amazing night. Great food, great people, hot music, open bar, great networking, live entertainment by the Pussy Cat Dolls, all to raise money for various charities!

15 Ways To Keep Your Woman Happy

By Isley Nicole Melton
I'm always seeing list on how to keep your man happy but rarely do I see list on how to keep your women happy. Why is that? It's weird because we can get unhappy and get ghost just as quick as a man can. Here is a list I came up with for married or boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. Enjoy...

1. Stop Lying!! Some men have this really bad because they will lie about the stupidest things. Such a turn-off. We literally want to have an affair when you lie to our faces. See? Not worth it huh?
2. Actually hear what she has to say rather than just nodding your head like you heard her. We know the difference and do not speak over her when she is trying to get her point across. We hate that.
3. Tell her you love her first. We are the mushy ones most of the time so when you say it first it makes us happy.
4. Surprise her with gifts other than birthdays etc etc. If you are communicating well you know what she likes. Flowers are cool but it's nothing to brag to her friends about.
5. Nothing gets us more excited than spontaneous outings. So take her somewhere she's never been.
6. Take romantic trips as often as possible.
7. Do not stare at other women in her presence. You'll be wondering why you didn't get none that night.
8. Always be a gentleman and open doors. Some men get too comfortable and ease up on this once they got you.
9. Help with the kids and help keep the house clean. A sloppy man is a big turn-off.
10. Take care of yourself. Nothing sexier than a well groomed man. (Not overly though lol) Make use of that gym membership or actually use the gym you have at home.
11. Be attentive and compliment her with sincerity. Notice those new jeans she has on. If you wont someone else will.
12. Be affectionate other times besides sex time.
13. Get your stamina up. That goes back to exercise. No one likes a 5 min lover. Womp Womp...
14. Make sure she has an orgasm every time. A few would be heavenly and master the art of ORAL SEX.
15. Make your woman top priority at all times. If there's something she is not comfortable with, fix it immediately. Happy wife=Happy life.

Bottom line treat her like you would want your mother, sister or daughter to be treated. Nothing less. Feel free to add to the list.

Lebron James

I am amazed and a little disturbed by all the Lebron hate from Laker fans when in reality he is a BEAST!!!! Let's see anyone in the NBA do what he did with the team he had!! Exactly... Couldn't happen. He is still MVP of the league even if he is "gone fishing". Which means he is the better OVERALL player statistically. I think props should be given when they are due. Yes Kobe is the man but without help from his TEAM he'd be "gone fishing" too. Lebron showed what he is made of and I will forever be a fan of his no matter what team he goes to. Small town kid making big moves. How inspiring!!! Trust and believe he'll have a championship ring next year if he goes to the right team. Seriously who can really hate on a player who scored 40 plus points every night during the playoffs??? That's absurd!!!! Lebron go get your 100 million dollar contract (which you deserve) and make the haters puke up blood from being so sick :)

The Anti-Twitter

I'm probably going to get a lot of flack for this but I do not see what the big deal is about Twitter. I've been online for years and I think it is the dumbest thing ever created. Who gives a damn what Puffy, Diddy, Sean Combs or whatever his name is now, is doing? Who gives a damn what anybody is doing all the time? If people on my facebook page update their status too much with dumb ass updates I put them in hide mode. It keeps me from deleting them. I will not broadcast my every move. That's wack. If Ellen is taking a dump y'all tweeters will be the first to know! I think it is fanatical to live vicariously through other people on a daily basis. Is Diddy following you? HELL NO! So why the hell are you following him and telling me Diddy did this yesterday and Diddy is in Paris or having 15 hour tantric sex??? That's both pathetic and gross lol Is anything sacred any more? Live your OWN life! Have your own sex! Who cares!!?! If I want to know what my friends are doing I call or text them. Remember that? What happen to the human aspect of contact? It's bad enough that most of us like to text more than talk nowadays. I'm guilty of that myself but I am going to try to be more personal because this is getting out of hand. All modern technology is not good technology. The only people I'm following is my friends and family and I really hate the word "follow". How about "support".

With all due respect....Twitter is for Tweekers. Yes, I said it. lol

Ok got to go pee now.